Ah, the anxieties and stresses of going on a first date. First off, those anxieties are a good thing: if you were supremely confident, then you’d probably be setting yourself up for a fall. Still, the stress is understandable. You want it to go well, you don’t know who the other person is (really), and you’re not sure about the right ways to act or prepare. No worries! We’re on hand to help you figure it out. Follow our simple rules, and you’ll be walking down the aisle in no time at all (disclaimer: not guaranteed).
Are you going to take control of the date? Then good, this is your chance to reveal a little slither of yourself without saying a single thing. It’s always a good idea to get creative and think outside the box a little bit. Dinner and a movie are fine, but if there’s something you think will be better, then go with that. Just don’t try and make it something that only you enjoy. Discovering something together is the best way to get to know one another!
Whether you know how to dress well in real life or not doesn’t matter: you can always bluff it on a first date! Even if it is a bluff, it shows that you care about your appearance and how your date perceives you. If you’re at a complete loss, keep it simple. Men’s blazers can be worn with a wide range of items (that you probably already have in your wardrobe) and are smart, yet also casual. With a blazer, nice shoes, and well-groomed hair, you’re on your way to looking the part!
You need to be engaged. And by that, we don’t mean have a fiance and be engaged to be married. We mean you need to actually show an interest in your date. This isn’t your opportunity to announce your many achievements to a captive audience; it’s a shared experience, one in which you listen as much as you talk. Some people have the opposite problem, and only listen - make sure you’re giving as well as taking!
Keep it Civil
You might one day get to the point where you’re open up with one another to have one too many drinks, get a little flirtatious, or use more colorful language, but a first date is not this time. You don’t yet know what your date’s attitude to life is like, so don’t run the risk of offending them just because you’re over excited and can’t control yourself. Keep conversation to neutral topics. Nobody wants to hear your well-rounded speeches on politics over dinner!
And Be Cool
And finally...be cool. Don’t go into the date with expectations or assumptions. You’re just two people who are getting to know each other. It might go somewhere, or it might not: you’ll know by the third or fourth date. For the first, just relax, treat the other person with respect, and have a good time.